1.Make sure your profile is complete before sending a message to someone else
This is basic, but sometimes daters forget that when they receive an interesting message, the first thing they do is click on the sender's profile. If your BBW profile is only half done, isn't concise enough, or doesn't have a photo, you probably won't get a response. For more tips, check out our tips for writing your online curvy dating profile. Once done, the next step is...
2.It's temporary
Well, the first message is sweet, short. 100 words is about it: long enough to include a compliment, something you find appealing about their AD, something you both have in common, and a leading question. Don't feel like you have to sell yourself or introduce yourself too much - as we said, they'll definitely look at your chubby hookup profile and get to know you there. Keep the conversation going. Plus, the shorter your first message, the more attractive you'll be. As they say in the entertainment industry, make them want more.
3.Create an interesting opening line
Again, don't panic - this isn't necessarily the best or perfect opening line in the history of BBW dating apps. The goal is something simple and personal. If your curvy tinder hookup date mentions that they like a particular movie, use a quote from it as your theme. If they like a particular stand-up comic, you can start with a joke. Create something witty and warm that shows you've read their BBW hookup profile instead of just browsing their photos. Then...
4.Use their name
Research shows that people like to hear their name in conversation. Take advantage of this scientific discovery and start your message with "Hello" instead of a non-specific "Hi." If you want to create a warm feeling, shorten their name, use their initials, or create a nickname based on their interests. Make it sweet and fun.
5.Talk about them
Everyone likes to know themselves, so don't start by introducing yourself directly. Instead, start with what appeals to you in their profile. If it's just their big smile or their sparkling blue eyes, that's great! If their profile makes you laugh at Tesco shopping, say so. If you're desperate to meet a woman who loves football (even if you question her choice of team), say so.
6.Ask a question
The easiest way to start a conversation with a stranger is to ask a question, so include a question. Tailor it to their interests or work, or even a photo of them. Ask open-ended questions instead of answering "yes" or "no" because they are more fun to answer. Therefore, "You look like you love skiing! I've skied many times. Where do you like to go skiing most?"
7.Check the time of your message
You might say you're busy, living an interesting and fulfilling life, but how busy can you be if you send a message at 9pm on a Saturday night? Similarly, if you claim to love your job, but the timestamp on the email shows that you sent it at 9.30am on a Monday, your readers may question your work ethic. Stick to neutral times, such as lunchtime and late afternoon. Ideally, write it down before you leave the house to do something fun. You'll be in a positive mood, you won't want to write too much, and you'll be too busy to check your responses.